Mon Nov 09 2009 - 09:13 pm
Coffee...yes crumbs...I can't take credit for that one....that would be buitif...she comes up with just the right comparisons and this was one of them. Interestingly enough...after posting the other night....it hit me....I'm answering all of the crumbs no name is throwing out. I decided, the next email or chat request will be ignored. If he sends a text. It will be ignored too. I will accept nothing less than a phone call. You see, I allowed him to throw the crumbs out, but not anymore. If he calls great, if he doesn't, it is his loss!
Hello all.....how is everyone doing?
idspossible and little darlin....we have all been here for a long time...I speak for myself when I say that this site has done wonders for me and connected me with some phenominal woman....at one time we were all hurting and look how we came together and in just a few short months...we were partying in Atlantic City.
You all have a great night!
Tue Nov 10 2009 - 08:14 am
Trace - i believe his lost cell phone excuse, i lose my cell phone all the time and lose numbers. All you have to do is live up to your standards, and if he meets them he gets to ride along. I think he is interested but knows he messed up, he's just not disciplined. If he says he will call you at 7 and doesnt get to you by 7:20, let it go to voicemail. He doesnt want you to chase him, he wants you to let him chase you, let him. You are not confused, it is just not yet defined. What you have to determine is what meets your definition then if he lives up to that definition. You may have to pick up the ball once to let him back in, then he's on his own, and it is up to him. If he doesnt make the date and calls to let you know, be friendly cos you know its real. Be open and free and living your life, he will catch the wave. Know your own expectations and have them in your mind so you wont be wavering up to the minit.
Tue Nov 10 2009 - 08:19 am
Coffee - if you give him a negative "thats not calling" he will not like the feeling of being scolded, it would be better to ignore the text and reward the behavior you do want, i.e. the call. At least he is texting you to keep in touch, maybe it will turn into more texts, maybe if you take it lightheartedly and send back an LOL and nothing more, he will feel encouraged. He doesnt know how to appraoch you so he's playing it safe. Make him feel accepted and safer. he thinks he cant do anything right. Youve got to at least get him through the starting gate. That is, if you want to give him a chance. You like him.
Tue Nov 10 2009 - 08:21 am
Sip Shoot - in your situation, i agree with your not accepting crumbs and nothing less than a phone call. You have an established pattern with him you are trying to break. Good on ya
Tue Nov 10 2009 - 03:43 pm
yes this site is wonderful and addicting...but I have learned a lot...took a minute to put it into practice...but its in my brain and heart!
Tue Nov 10 2009 - 08:40 pm
Its,
i haven't heard much from you lately.
How is it goin?
Tue Nov 10 2009 - 09:08 pm
Coffee and Shizzeele.....imagine this....remember the FB messages and the FB chats and the phone number request.....crumbs.....I opened my FB to read the live news feed and first up?......no name is in a relationship....must be a good one huh? Wonder what he needed my number for a few weeks ago? Just in case it doesn't work out....what a jerk!
The ticked off me wanted to comment and ask if that meant he wasn't going to use it but the Goddess in me hid the post and moved on.
He's a very private person and my first impression, she must be on his friend list so she could see it, seeing as he just chatted with me last week about spending Halloween alone falling asleep on the couch. Bet you she is a total drama queen....I'll give it a month.
Tue Nov 10 2009 - 09:53 pm
Hey, so been in no contract since Saturday. Unsure if I should call or text or let it be and move on. My Brother in Law is like let it be, my sister says call and set up dinner. I think he should call but he has always been bad about calling. He probably is a little scared because he was the one who disappeared so maybe he does need encouragement because the last time we did talk I was busy so didn't want to be bothered. It wasn't him, I was just finishing up something and knew at 8, we weren't having dinner then. My sister think he got spooked about us so that's why he disappeared but has now realized he messed up but doesn't want to come running back and hit a brick wall with me. So do I call him because that is what I expect from him or leave it be?
Tue Nov 10 2009 - 09:56 pm
SIP,
I am sorry....that sucks!
Tue Nov 10 2009 - 10:01 pm
Coffee...
I am not the greatest at "practicing what I preach", but I don't think you should call.
Take the man's advice, not the woman's.
Remember, what our instincts tell us (as women) is based on what WE want to hear (or receive) if the situation were flipped.
Men are different!!!
We think it shows strength going after what we want and not playing games. Andd "maybe they need the encouragement" blah, blah, blah....but it backfires!
If he wants you ....he will contact you!
Be strong!
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