THE END OF ITSY NEEDS HELP!!!!

SOULMATE...get your chips,dips,soda,chicken, and napkin...you are in for a long ride..but here goes!

Met guy online in September. After about 3 weeks, we exchanged numbers and began chatting for about 6 weeks. Around beginning of November, he came to see me (we are long distance-about 5 hours apart). He came in the evening we met for dinner and he was EXACTLY like the pictures and his conversations. He looked me in the eyes all night long, I was the only thing he was concerned with, at the end of the evening he started caressing my hand (lightly and not in a manner of it being sexual)...so we went to our cars and he sat in mine and we listened to music and talked a little longer and he gave me a hug and kiss on the cheek! The next morning...I met him for breakfast and we had a wonderful conversation then and he left for a meeting that was about 2 hours away and I went to work. Then about 3 weeks later he comes back again and this time, it was all about us! He came in on Friday night and I picked him up at his hotel and we got a bite to eat and he held my hand or was hugging me and opening my door, etc...COMPLETE GENTLEMAN! He finally came on my side of the booth and we kissed for the first time..the restaurant was dimly lit and there wasn't anyone in there but us! So I dropped him off, and I picked him up the next morning for breakfast..shopping, even went to look at a display house (we both love to do this as a hobby) and he had already asked after his first trip to see me could he meet my brother when he came back because he thinks that since we met online and he is long distance that I would need a males perspective on him and for my brother to basically check him out (no man has ever asked this-plus my father is deceased)..so I thought you get 100 cool pts. Well we meet my brother for lunch and it was really nice, I even left them along to go to the restroom and when I got back,they were having a good old talk like old buddies (I was really happy about this)...my brother even told him that the next time he came back, that he needed to meet my mom (which my brother wouldn't have ever said if he didn't like him) so I thought another 100 pts! Well we went sight seeing and we had dinner reservations at this hotel that at that top spins around the city (very nice and on the pricey side)...oh SM, it was romantic and just wonderful. He told me that he only was seeing me (which he told me before) and that he wasn't looking for a booty call, a one night stand, or a hey whenever I am in town lets hook up or a casual dating experience...but something longterm and he was looking for a wife! He is divorced (been divorce for 8 years) and has 2 sons (20-10). Has an excellent job, teaches a college course 2 nights a week and has a side gig (but it kind of is along the line of sales and he isn't that focused on that..its a if it sales fine or if not, thats cool too type thing). So after dinner we go to this jazz spot for drinks and dessert...he was holding my hand the entire time, looking me in my eyes and just saying everything right! Well I took him back to the hotel and we kissed forever (which by the way, he never let my hand go the entire day and he kissed me every 5 minutes-which I loved)...so after we finish kissing he is like, let me go b/c I am really into you and we don't need to go down this path right now. So on Sunday, we met for dinner and again, wonderful conversation, he said he liked my brother couldn't wait to meet my mom and how much he really liked me and he hoped I wasn't allowing another man to pursue me the way he is, etc.etc.etc. Filled my car up with gas and mind you I never paid for ANYTHING...not even a pack of gum! Both of his trips were on the pricey side (food, hotel and gas).

So about 2 wks b4 Christmas is when things take a turn for the worse in my opinion! He finds out that his 20 yr old son has a 5 MONTH OLD DAUGHTER!!! He was floored! So he goes to his hometown (where his son is going to school and lives) and try to find out what is really going on. Come to find out that the girl was only 15 when she conceived, the son was only 19 and they could have pressed charges against his son. So he was a basket case and he got them a DNA test to make sure it was his sons child, then he talked to the parents (who are clueless) and finds out that his son is living with another chick! So all in all he had to fly out to go home for 3 days to tidy up some things with work and take his vacation to go back and get his son out of the apt that he is paying for, trying to help him get his grown butt a job, then get a room on campus! In the midst of this happening, he was in the state that got WHIRLWINDED WITH A HUGE SNOW STORM that made it impossible for him to leave. So he had to find a way to get his son from another state by way of his brother to get him to him by Christmas! Horrible ordeal..but within this time frame of 3 weeks, we only TALKED 3 times and he text like every 2-3 days! I didn't like this and expressed it a few times..didn't do any good. So after the holidays, I was thinking that things would return to "normal" bc to be honest to him, he never called " a lot" just more than he did after all of this happened. Well...we had another big explosion bc he swore we needed to chat everyday even if it was just for a few minutes..NEVER HAPPENED! So he was supposed to come see me this past weekend...but his city and state got HIT REALLY BAD...so he didn't come which I am not upset about that...but that he had me waiting to know if he was coming or not all the way up till that Friday!!! So again, low communication. Well he decides to call me on Friday and we talked for an hour SM...this is how this goes.

He tells me that he is sorry (which he always fesses up to what he said and didn't do..he never acts dumb or like he never said something)...for us not really being able to communicate a lot and all day he had been thinking about us and making me a priority! And how he needs to reassess his life to incorporate me in it, because he really likes me, is into me and had all intentions to come and see me. He said that he needs to be a man about his word and that he know he has lost some credit with me by all that has happened. I expressed to him how much I like him too and really want this to work, but all I am asking for is more communication on his end. Oh by the way, whenever I call...8 times out of 10 he won't answer. Now I know he doesn't have someone living with him..b/c I have his address, and home number...but that is RIDICULOUS TO ME that you won't answer your phone! Forgot to tell you that on the 19th of January, he made it official that we are exclusively dating!!! So anyway, we had the long talk about what we were expecting and wanting and that we really were going to try and make this work if it doesn't end up as a love affair and marriage, at least we will be life long friends...so I got off the phone and said hey, since I hadn't heard from you I made plans to go out with friends to dinner, and he said, thats fine, I will be home tonight and this weekend due to the weather being bad, its unlikely that I can go anywhere...so I said ok, I will call you later, won't be out late...he said that is fine, and I said "name" are you going to answer and he said yes babe...well guess what SM...HE DIDN'T! So I thought, he just got back from a 2 day trip, he is exhausted, so he might be sleep, it was around 1030...so I called him Saturday morning and he didn't answer and I sent a text, WELL AS OF TODAY, WEDNESDAY, I HAVE YET TO HEAR FROM HIM!!!!

SM.....Is he stringing me along, lying to me, have another woman, really busy, or what? I guess I really don't understand b/c he is NOT getting anything out of all of this!! He hasn't gotten any sex, I don't pay for anything...so what is his reason for telling me that he wants us to be together, talk more, see each other more, meeting my brother, shelling out $200-$300 both times he came and never even touched me inappropriately (on my breast or butt...but he was on hard a couple of times...so I do know that I turn him on and he isn't gay-lol)....
It hasn't been a long time...but at the same time, I am telling him how important communication is to me and he tells me it is to him too and he promises to do better for NEVER DOES AS OF LATELY!
I am going back and forth in my mind to either cut him loose or to try and iron out the kinks and give it time...but is the writing on the wall? am I holding on to NOTHING? His actions are not lining up with his words and for the last 4-5 times we have talked its me pouring out my heart about this NO COMMUNICATION ISSUE and I know he is tired of hearing me nag about it...but I can't help it..he set me up with everyday expectations to hear from him and I don't hear fromhim but once or twice a week by phone and the rest on text..and as of Friday..haven't gotten ANYTHING FROM HIM!
Am I wasting my time, I am askign for too much too soon...HELP SM PLEASE HELP ME CLEAR MY THOUGHTS AND MAKE A WISE DECISION!

So did you finish the whole bag of chips and liter of soda yet? lol