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Does my guy friend want more than just friendship?

I would like to get some advice on a current dating dilemma. About three years ago I met this guy that I thought was very cute but at first didn't really want to pursue because I thought he was "that" type of guy. Well things started to change when I got to know him. He had a great personality but it was a little hard because there was always several other girls interested in him and I have also never been the type to chase in any way.

Well he had moved to a different place and I didn't see him near as often. So he of course met this girl and never came around anymore and they dated for 2 years or so and then they broke up about 9 months or so ago. About 7 months ago, he started coming back around and hanging out with our mutual friends. Of course it was a little awkward at first but I decided I didn't care anymore because it had been three years and it was way overwith.

Then the weirdest things seemed to start happening but didn't think too much of it at first because it wasn't uncommon for people to come to me for advice or friendship. He started paying close attention to me more and more after we had an extremely long, in-depth conversation one night. He started saying things like "you're so different from any other girl I know" and "you're not like everyone else". Now keep in mind, this is definitely not the guy I used to know him as, even though we were friends before. He never did or said the things he has recently.

He would have these girls almost to the point of everything but stripping for him with me very close by and would do his best to tell them to go away or ignore them without being mean. Then he would always come back to me and talk or whatever. Now I have never had a guy "friend" pass up an opportunity like that for me before. Whenever we're hanging out, if a girl calls him he will show it to me and not answer it. He never talks about being interested in a girl to me but he does tell me every now and then about girls that have been calling him.

One of the wierdest was that he put me as his 3rd top friend on myspace, with his best friend since he was a toddler and his brother being ahead of me. Just the other day he put me before his brother so now I'm 2nd. That really blows my mind because we are pretty good friends but not near that good. He never acts like my other guy friends act towards me and definitely talks to me more and pays alot more attention than they do. I've caught him staring at me several times especially if I'm talking to other guys. There are times when I feel like he might be trying to hit on me but I'm not sure because I do have so many guy friends, and I'm afraid of the possibility that he just may be so excited to have someone that's a good friend and that's all.

Please Tell me what you think and what I should do because I definitely don't want to start showing my feelings towards him and things become wierd but I also don't want for him to keep thinking that friends is all I want to be if he does want more.

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Wise again's picture
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If you can, just continue doing what you are doing. Whatever you do, don't start showing any feelings towards him just yet. You being so cool is what sets you appart, that is your main attraction. Be friendly and fun, maybe slightly flirty every now and then, but don't turn into an emotional little wimp that he appears to be so used to with other girls.

It is highly likely that he really likes you. Don't worry about him thinking that you only want to be friends. If he likes you I think he does), he will figure out the way to approach you in a more romantic way.

Think of it like a dance, let him dance towards you, follow his lead, but always with a little seductive lag.

I wish you luck!

 
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Thank you so much! That really does help... Alot!!

 
Trace's picture
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I agree with Wise, however be prepared nevertheless that he may just see you as a friend that's all...