What Misty said, yes yes yes.

Have you read "why men love bitches?" That book explains the whole principle. But if you haven't here is a little example

I have told this before so if you have heard it, sorry.

This came in one of Mimi Tanner's newsletters...paraphrasing:

Imagine you are on a date with a new guy and you wanna look hot and sexy. Red nail color makes you feel sassy so you paint your nails "Jungle Red" (from The Women) He makes a comment that he thinks red nails look cheap and trashy. Do you change your nail color the next time you see him?

A nice girl would. But Mimi says no, you should not change your personal style to please a man. It is the first step towards losing yourself and that is a slippery slope. He is entitled to his opinion but he is not the boss of your nails.

But suppose you do. The next time you go out you paint your nails a nice conservative beige tone. In fact, he seemed a little put off by your normal brash exuberance. So you dress down a little and resolve to be more quiet and ladylike. Not really you, but he is a pretty straight laced dude and you really like him. He compliments you on how lovely you look and is the perfect gentleman. He opens doors, pays, and even orders for you. You don't usually go to places this fancy. Wow.

For the first few weeks things are going great. You are a little out of your element with this guy and little by little you start to defer more and more of your decisions to him, until you can't even dress yourself without his input. Your whole demeanor has changed and your friends are wondering who the heck are you and what have you done with their former buddy.

He starts to resent having to do all your thinking for you and starts to get a little critical. Then he just doesn't want to put in the effort any more and is doing less and less. You just don't go out on proper dates anymore. He calls less and less. You start to freak out more and more....Even though you try harder and harder he is more and more critical until he gets downright disrespectful. After a big blow-up it is over.

I embellished on Mimi but well, you get the idea.

Point - keep your independence. That is what drew him to you in the first place was your supreme coolness. A nice girl will lose that as she bends herself into a pretzel to please her man. A bitch does not.

sorry for the long winded post