confussed
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 11:48 am
i dont even know where to begging but i better start somewhere.. i have been dating this guy for 7months and well he is sweet when he wants to be he wants to travel with me and i could honestly say i care about him more then i should he always talks about his family but has never offered to introduce me to them, i guess we are more of friends with benefits i have tried breaking it off but he made it real hard for me to keep with my decision saying i have alot of potential but right now we are in different directions i guess its because im a bartender and he is a fireman but does he really see me in his future or does he just want his cake and eat it too right now?? i have told him how much i care about him but he never says it back, i have asked if he ever thinks of me and his reply is of course i do but why isnt he making me his girlfriend im sorry if im not making sense but if someone understands it please help me out decode this man before i go crazy..... let him go? or stick around?
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 12:16 pm
#2
thank you so much for the advice..now i need to soak it in and do the
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 12:16 pm
#3
thank you so much for the advice..now i need to soak it in and do the
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 12:17 pm
#4
thank you so much for the advice.. now i need to soak it in and do the right thing no matter even if it hurts... what if he text me or calls me?? do i reply?
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 03:08 pm
#5
If he texts or calls do not reply. You need to have no contact. If you reply then you are no challenge to him, he knows he can pick you up and drop you when he feels like it.
You need to respect yourself and value yourself and fill your life with what makes you happy. Do you feel happy and confident without him or do you depend on him for your happiness?
Please give us some more information, so we can help you further.
Hugs NNN xxx
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 06:35 pm
#6
Kari...I am just now getting out of a FWB...its not easy. My ex have told me on occasion how he felt but it never matched my feelings for him (in words or actions).
Please please please...let him go! Just stop talking to him about your feelings and stop having sex with him! He won't love, respect or want to be with you any more than he does not....as a matter of fact..all of this might backfire! Don't let it go on for 2 years like I did! I lost a lot of respect for myself over this man!
If you want anything with him (long term)...then let him go and that might be what brings him to you!
Wed Nov 04 2009 - 06:03 pm
#7
thank you ladies for all the feed back....
Hi Kari26 and welcome.
My advice is to back off and have no contact with him. He needs to decide what he wants and how he feels about you. The more available you are to him the more he will back off. Stop telling him how much you care about him, this will only push him further away. He is saying that you have a lot of potenial but right now you are in different directions, if he wants to be with you properly then he has to work this out for himself.
I have been in a friends with benefits situation, like many on here. the more we give the less respect they have for us.
Please read the threads on breakups, no contact. There is a lot of advice on there, you dont need to read it all, start somewhere at the beginning and read some in the middle and at the end and you will find there are lots of ladies in similar situations to yours.
Im sure the cavalry will be along to give you some great advice.
Stay here and vent your frustrations and feelings, we will listen and understand. Please dont contact him.
NNN xxx