The condensed version!

Dear Paige,

Hello. I've been dating a man for 2yrs on and off. He came on strong at first, saying he knew I was the woman for him. When we met, I was extremely vulnerable, as I was 4mnths pregnant, broke and wanting to quickly find a husband and father for this child, so that I might provide her (as it turns out) with a stable family life. I was sure it was him.

Although I could have made it on my own, for the first time in my life, I accepted someone's financial help, so that I may stay at home w/my newborn. He helped me a lot...15K worth of help and love for the first 6 months. What I didn't know tho was that the woman he supossedly had just broken up w/right b4 meeting me, was a woman that he later married behind my back 6 months after meeting him. I did not find this out until after he had filed for divorce. He just wasn't acting the same, tried to weasal out of paying for the apt and everything else he had committed to so, I started digging around on the WWW.

I took him back. I love him, having nothing to do w/$. I fell madly in love. Awesome chemistry in every way. Over the two years, he has never wanted to break things off. I have many many times. I've tried so hard to get over him, but, just can't. I have convinced myself that we love eachother and I do believe that to be the case even today. One of the major reasons I kept trying to break things off w/him is bc he never gave me the time I needed. Missed my B-day again! According to him (and I've seen proof in various forms and places) he is working on a MAJOR project that may earn him millions. He says it's not a matter of "if", it is "when." The "when" sounds right around the corner. He claims he cannot stop now and that NOTHING will take priority over this. Ulitmately what that means for me is that I see him only once a month, sometimes less.

My question is this: When he comes around, we have a wonderful time and he leaves floating on clouds and smiling ear to ear, acting goofy like a little boy. Now, I don't think it's his co. that keeps him away so long, I think it's him & his fears. He even admitted as much. I put my foot down, for the last time and said this is not enough. I need more from you. You will lose me if this continues on. He for the first time agreed that he would make every effort to see me at least twice a week. Even said he wanted to take walks w/my daughter and I, more dinners....etc... Brought me a card and belated gift. Again, we had a fabulous day together, great talk but, as we said goodbye, I saw that scared look on his face like "God what did I commit to here?"

What do you suggest I do when I feel him backing off? It seems that when I allow him his space, he takes too much and time just keeps passing. He always eventually calls first. He doesn't want me to fade away.....that is clear, but, he also clearly doesn't feel comfortable with a full time thing. At the same time he gets furiuos if I even breathe the word LEAVING! What to do?

Sharon