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calling dilemma

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Hi everyone ... I exchanged phone numbers on Thurs. with this guy from a dating site. We had said we'd get in touch over the weekend. It's Sunday almost noon and I haven't heard from him. Should I call him, or should I take it that since he has my number, and I did invite him to call me over the weekend, that's a clear sign he's no longer into the idea of us talking?

Generally experience has shown me that if he's got your number and you've told him to call, he'll call if he's interested! I don't want to call him and have one of those awful conversations where I can tell he didn't really want to hear from me.

Any thoughts?

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Don't call. He has your number. Have the attitude that if he calls he calls, if not it's "NEXT".

pandora09's picture
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Thanks Robin! I've had good vibes about him and I'm feeling dangerously close to calling, so I need the support. :)

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I agree, he has his number, he needs to call you. So go find something fun to do and if he calls then you have something to talk about -- the great day you had!

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Thanks Coffee! You're right. I just took myself out on a "shopping date" and it really helped to get my mind off hoping he'll call!

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He called. So glad I didn't call him! Thanks again, ladies.

Joined: May 6 2009

Another one bites the dust.......;)

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:)

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so glad he did pandora! have fun just chatting!

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Thanks itspossible! We did have a great talk -- there seems to be possibility there! :)

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Well -- it's been four days since I talked to this guy. We had a really good conversation, which I had to end after about 25 minutes or so because I had plans. So I told him I was sorry I had to get off the phone, but I'd like to talk again if he would and he said he would. We seemed to end on a very upbeat note, but I haven't heard from him. As of last night, I've begun to get a bit panicky. I know it hasn't been that long, but there's always that window of time where if they miss the window, it feels like they aren't very interested and my enthusiasm wanes.

I know I shouldn't call him -- right?

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RIGHT! :)

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Thanks for the support K203! He still hasn't called ... :( I really thought he would! We had such a great talk. You just never know!

K203's picture
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Give it time. I mean that. I waited for 2 months for a call back from the guy I'm seeing just now. He was quite sporadic with calls and get-togethers for the first 6 months...he's much more attentive now. :-)

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That's encouraging! I guess there's a lot to be said for being open to possibilities and having patience. Thanks! I'll try to relax and just see what happens.

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One thing though...I genuinely wasn't sitting around thinking about him...worrying about why he wasn't calling. I just kept on living my life, going out with friends (it was during this time I took a trip to Ireland and then Cape Cod and then the Finger Lakes) and generally just living my life. In other words I genuinely put him out of my mind and that helped me NOT sound angry or accusing when he DID call. I think he likes this about me :-)

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Thanks, good advice. I imagine by next week this will probably be completely out of my mind. It's just that I really clicked with this guy (or so it seemed), which is rare. So I'm still a bit in disappointment-ville.