TO CALL OR NOT TO CALL
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 05:43 pm
Hey Ladies -- Question -- I met a guy about 3 months ago -- we talked for the first month on/off; he asked me out twice and neither time did i give in to sex although he made advances. Well, he stopped calling for about 2 months and now he has resurfaced; why is he telling me though that i never call him? am i showing him that im not interested because im not calling? Im not calling because i need to know whether he is really interested in me or does he just want me to chase him -- he just hasnt shown me that must interest -- he'll call ever now and then -- but nothing w/ substance -- no consistency whatso ever -- what's up! why does he keep asking me to call?
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 05:51 pm
"(is) he is really interested in me or does he just want me to chase him -- he just hasnt shown me that must interest -- he'll call ever now and then -- but nothing w/ substance "
There is your answer. If he was interested he will call. He is testing you to see if you are interested in him enough to chase him.
He is lazy. He feels physical attraction for you but is not really willing to put himself out. Your instincts are correct.
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 06:04 pm
He is making you an option.
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 07:00 pm
He wants casual.
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 07:12 pm
hes a loser and just wants sex. your a Queen and deserve a King to see all your great qualitites! forget him and for now on ignore him completely.
Thu Mar 04 2010 - 01:54 pm
Robin -- you hit a nerve; "he's making me an option" -- Thanks to all your comments -- that's why i dont call him and he will wait til hell freeze over before i chase him; why is it the ones that you really dig act stupid -- and yeah, that's why i havent become intimate with him too because i didnt feel that he was making me a priority. Thanks Ladies for reaffirming my feelings! Ive already been to hell and back w/ a recent "ex" -- im not ready to go back there again
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 09:07 pm
During that first month when you went out with him twice, did you call him at all?
Thu Mar 04 2010 - 01:53 pm
No, i never took the initiative to call; when he call me and i miss the call, i will follow up, that's all
Thu Mar 04 2010 - 05:13 pm
Curioustity....I feel your pain...I'm in the same boat as you !!!
Read my post...what to do what to do...and help me to understand this in the Dating section.
I just wrote him an email yesterday that I was no longer interested in dating him, that we weren't a good fit. I need someone who is more responsive and willing to get to know me. I wish him lucked in his search and if he wanted to discuss we could...and to call me...not email or text
he responds...that if i he doesnt initiate the calls i won't..then said ..i'll call
I wrote not true ( every time i called, he wouldnt pick up or would ignore my text, so i just gave up calling and texting and waited for him to do the work)
BTW...he has yet to call !!!
He sent me a stupid yahoo instant message this morning..to whch i didnt reply.....
whats the deal with them ???
Fri Mar 05 2010 - 02:12 am
He is immature. Just don't respond, and move on.
Fri Mar 05 2010 - 03:47 pm
from: cheleez -- "whats the deal with them ???"
its called "playing games" -- I believe "it is what it is" they are just not that interested to do the "work" and if you are not careful -- just because they do call periodically and if we are really "digging" them -- we will get caught "hook, line and sinker" and I dont say "sinker" lightly because if we get hooked and they are not really/sincerely "into" us, then we could possibly "sink" for sure -- going down because IF we are interested, we will start the "questioning" game -- "what's going on here" and the bottom line to the Drama -- we shouldnt make "questioning" the focus/priority more than the "enjoyment and happiness" of a potential/relationship -- Yes Lord, im learning w/ bumps and bruises .....
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