Being a single Goddess during the Holidays
Fri Nov 20 2009 - 02:48 pm
Hello Goddesses,
Well, the Holiday season is on us again. I was so busy with my fablulous :) life that I really didn't notice.
I have a play going on, I am trying to plan a trip for my 50th birthday in March, I am going to auditions as much as I can. I sing karaoke on the weekends. I am putting in extra hours at my friend's flower shop over the holidays. My plate is actually quite full, and yet....
The holiday season really bums me out because yet another one is rolling around and there is no one special in my life. Christmas 2006, on the day after Christmas, I asked my family if it would be ok if I brought someone for Christmas dinner next year. They thought I was joking. I have been single for so long that my family can't think with the idea of me being part of a couple.
Well, 2 Christmases have come and gone since then. This is the 3rd coming up since that conversation, and I am still solo. My parents are elderly; my father, though in good health is 85 years old. My mother has alzheimer's and is in a home. My neice is 18 and is going to university out of province. I was never very close to my sister. My family is disintegrating and the possibility of me facing the rest of my life on my own hits very bad during the holidays. (and my birthday, but I will deal with that in March)
Last night I had a work function. I was the organizer so I was basically there to work, not schmooze. That is the Chairman's and CEO's job. I am there to make sure that everything runs smoothly. At the hotel, all the Christmas decorations were up and everything looked so pretty. I was overcome with a profound sadness. I soldiered on and the evening was a roaring success. One of my co-workers asked me what was wrong, and I blamed it on the stress of running an important company function (I am actually only a temp). But it was that Christmas has pounced on me like a great big mean tiger.
How does a real Goddess make it through the season flying solo...again?
Fri Nov 20 2009 - 06:08 pm
Yes, holidays are hard, it is my first Christmas without a significant other in 20 years. My parents have an exceptionally happy marriage. So does my sister and her husband. It is almost more difficult for them than for me. They simply don't know what to say or think or do and I have to encourage them that actually being single is not the end of the world.
When I first broke up with my longterm partner after 15 years, all my family was in shock, my parents had obviously discussed what was going on. So they had decided that I must be a lesbian! My lovely mother said 'If you are a lesbian, please know we love and support you'. Bless her! I had a good laugh and said that I appreciated their support and if I ever decided to become a lesbian I knew I would be able to count on their support and it meant a lot to me that they were going to support me no matter what.
So, yes, it will be a bit weird, but I am looking forward to going home and meeting my old friends who knew me when I was very young and catch up with them as if we had been seeing each other every day.
And it will be nice and snowy at home. I am from a country very close to Santa's home :)
Fri Nov 20 2009 - 06:22 pm
Are you a fellow Canadian Wise? If so where?
Anyway I would like to take this time to wish all our American Goddesses a very happy Thanksgiving, since we are on the subject of Holidays
Fri Nov 20 2009 - 06:41 pm
No, I am not a Canadian.
Is Santa from Canada? I am under impression he lives in Finland!!! :)
Fri Nov 20 2009 - 06:58 pm
Theta's 50th is coming up in MARCH. We can have a party for THETA'S 50TH.
That's the plan. Now start a thread: Theta's 50th B-Day
Great deals going on... we can all meet again.
Whoots!
I've got mileage -or- if Goddess prefers. Theta, you can come here.
Hey, it WORKS for me! Somebody start a thread, I'm swamped, K?
Auds
xoxox
Fri Nov 20 2009 - 07:00 pm
Well, my 50th is next year too! Maybe we could do a 50th birthday bash in 2010 for every women who turns 50 next year, has ever turned 50, or will be 50 some day!!!! We can celebrate being alive, no matter our age....
Kat
Fri Nov 20 2009 - 07:05 pm
So much to celebrate!!!
We need to decide an exact time and a good place, otherwise it will all unravel...
OK I will start a thread under DWD catching up.
Sat Nov 21 2009 - 01:31 pm
I'm down with that !!!
Sun Nov 22 2009 - 07:17 pm
I have been alone during holidays way more than part of a couple. I was married for 6 years and he made holidays so much work. Everything had to be perfect. Now it's just me and my daughter, we wake up when we want to and sit on the floor opening our few gifts beside our 3 ft blue christmas tree. We always open one on Christmas eve, it's a tradition.
I don't look at it as sad. There are so many parties during this time of year and I love parties even solo. It is also a time to give and receive. Give give give and not just gifts but pieces of your heart.
Me and my girlfriends always get together around someone's kitchen table and usually end up dancing to 80's music in the kitchen. I look forward to that. Last year we broke the island in the middle of the kitchen. Laughed til we cried.
Don't look at what you don't have, look at what you do! We should have a party here one night. BYOB and put our elf atire on and park at the keyboard.
Sun Nov 22 2009 - 07:49 pm
First.... Santa is Canadian! (well, that's what I tell the kids anyway ha ha)
Second..... I believe thetababe prolly lives closest to him... I know where in Canada you live, tababe! :0
Third... I have been single at Xmas since Xmas 2006. I really thought this Xmas I would be with a recent bf, even imagined us sitting around the tree Xmas morning. Was trying to give him "incentive" to will himself to live that long.
I have good thoughts and sad thoughts at the upcoming holidays. Certain Xmas songs are hard to get through without a tear in my eye.
But I believe we all have a choice. I am choosing to be happy and upbeat through this season.
The more you think about being "alone" this season, the more you will dwell on it....and that is negative energy you are sending out to the universe. The more you remain sad about this season, the more sadness will come to you.
What will keep us single gals coping with the holidays is being very busy....and bring meaning to the holidays for us, or start a new family tradition!
Helping at a shelter... feeding the homeless through a local organization..... helping a local deserving family through this time is more than enough to fill our hearts with love and meaning this season.
Enough to wipe out the feeling of being "alone" this season :)
Enought to stop our minds from wandering to the "negative lands" :)
Besides you have all of us here :)
We are NOT alone. We have all of our friends here.
We are so blessed.
Sun Nov 22 2009 - 07:51 pm
Saucy,
It seems we are both right. I found at least two addresses for Santa Claus:
1) Santa Claus, North Pole, Canada, H0H 0H0.
2) Santa Claus, Korvatunturi, Lapland Province, Finland.
;)
Inspiration Story:
Connect w/ Paige
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