Bad habit leads to DWD advice!
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 12:18 pm
So recently if any of you have read my thread... Last on the list and now im upset. You know that the bf and i have had a bad misunderstanding last week. We worked it out and things have been going pretty well. (THANK GOD)
After this massive fight my bf explains to me that he does not want to sleep over for a while, because my 3 year old has not been fully broken of sleeping with me (his mommy) I know BAD HABIT! It has gotten pretty bad to the point where my son wouldnt want him to come over becuase he couldnt sleep with me if the bf was there! I totally took this into consideration, and the bf hasn't been over since we had the "TALK."
So I have not asked the bf over and to be honest haven't thought about it to much. I took the fact that he said he woulndt be sleeping over until (my son can sleep in his own bed) as he wouldnt be much over in general...
So last night my bf said: "why dont you ask me over anymore?" "i want to come over but you never invite me"
***OMG****
is this part of DWD advice!!!!
When i was complaining and crying that i wanted more time with him WE FOUGHT!!!! And now it is him asking me WHY I HAVENT INVITED HIM OVER!!!
Just thought i'd share this with you guys! Feel free to comment :)
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 01:01 pm
See friend,
When you stop analyzing the situation under a microscope so much....thats when answers to situations seem to become simple and evident. Just enjoy everyday....do your very best and know you are putting all the effort you can into this relationship. It will move along smoothly.....
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 01:07 pm
Thank you live life..
You always give me great advice!
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 01:11 pm
Too funny..... see how it always works out?!
Men.... can't live with them, can't shoot 'em :) Just kidding.
Your son's only three and until pretty recently it was just the two of you, so I don't think him sleeping with you is a bad thing.
Invite him over this weekend if you want.... and maybe now that you're in a relationship, this might be a good time to start weaning your son to sleep in his own bed. :)
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 01:19 pm
So initally when the bf and i started dating i started weining my son to sleep in his own bed. The bf is a teacher so he bought my son a sleeping chart. every time he slept in his bed, he got a sticker... so my son did very well with this. However i would occasionally let my son sleep with me on the nights the bf wasnt sleeping over... (I KNOW I KNOW, I was WRONG!)
So i have incorperated the rules once again and my son has been in his own bed the past 3 nights :)
Positive thing***
The bf took me too lunch yesterday, and asked me out for tonight!!!!!!!!
What a shocker!
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 02:45 pm
it seems its worked out ok for you, your son and your BF. soon your child will settle into the habit of sleeping in his own bed without any disruptions and you both could carry on as normal having that bit of time to yourselves.
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 02:49 pm
Yes thank god...
My bf always said: "this is our time away from everything else"
I cant wait to get that back! I miss cuddling
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 02:56 pm
Well pg...it seems like things are moving in the right direction!
I don't think a kid sleeping with you is a good thing at all...but others think differently. I just hope your son doesn't get it in his mind that you are "punishing" him by not allowing him to sleep JUST BECUASE OF A MAN!
So please wean him quickly and try not to allow him to see your bf spending the night (doesn't always look good for boys to see their mom in bed with a guy that is not daddy!)
Just my 2 cents
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 03:03 pm
Itspossible ~
I have established that this is my rule and part of being a "big boy" to my son. That is part of the reason my bf has not been around. I dont want my son to think that he only sleeps in my bed when my bf is not around.
As far as the daddy part...
My son has never met his daddy, and has only seen my current bf of 1yr and 4 months with me. So he doesnt know any different. If i let him as i have before, my son would come and curl up and cuddle between us...
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 08:24 pm
Ok, well I hope things work out!
Fri Nov 13 2009 - 11:17 am
Thanks for your hopes :)
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