Annoyance
Mon Jun 22 2009 - 04:20 pm
Greetings all,
My LDR prospect hasn't really chatted with me in, what feels like forever, although we chatted just about a week ago on the 12th. I didn't hear from him until Thursday but it was just texting me on skype for a few minutes. I was at the library but went home and wanted to continue chatting but we just said hello and that's it. Thought there would be more conversation as that typically happens. I was getting tired and left.
Generally annoyed now since he saw I was on skype today and didn't chat and haven't heard what he's been up to for over a week.
I know to just wait but it's annoying sometimes.
He's been texting/emailing me as Sunshine, which I guess is a cute pet name.
It would be nice to talk more but there is a 5 hour time difference. Anyways, I feel like so much happens to me in a week and I'm someone always looking ahead so what I did last weekend is old news so he's missing out on all this stuff that I do because by the time I get to talk to him, I've moved on to something new and I tend to live in the moment.
He was a bit flirtatious as well on the last phone and even said to come to bed with him (he was getting ready for bed) and texting how he would rather be out with me at the concert I was going to attend later on.
Men can be so annoying!
I wonder if he is trying to 'test me' to see if I get pissy about not hearing from him.
Tue Jun 23 2009 - 05:10 pm
#2
I am wondering if he is 'testing me', which I don't appreciate since I am stressing over finding a job and don't need the extra drama!
Wed Jun 24 2009 - 03:39 pm
#3
he apparently sent me a quick message on skype just asking how I am doing and hope I'm doing well.
Fri Jun 26 2009 - 06:39 pm
#4
Hello all,
It's too bad people don't respond much to the LDR threads as Understanding Men seems quite popular.
Anyways, my prospect chatted with me today and brought up again how he wants me to come over. I am assuming he is teasing me since he knows I am looking for work and can't afford to visit. I said it was his turn but he was acting silly and asking why. It annoys me (as I take it literally...sometimes I can't tell if someone is joking or not) but I think he's just teasing me.
Also since we are not official, it actually bothers me to hear him talk about stuff he is doing around his house because he has told me that he was considering moving to my country. He was buying carpet a few weeks ago and is doing painting. I guess maybe maintaining a house isn't a big deal since he can sell his house whenever he is ready so really I shouldn't worry.
I guess I can ask him why he is doing these things as maybe they are just routine maintenance.
Sun Jul 05 2009 - 09:45 am
#5
Greetings all,
Annoyed again because I haven't heard from his since our last chat which was last Friday (not the Friday that passed).
I worry and wonder though. I feel mildly insecure, like wondering if he's interested but I largely wonder what is he up to and what's going on.
Men! ugh!
Sun Jul 05 2009 - 02:28 pm
#6
Funnyone - I know the feeling, men drive me nuts too! I am starting to understand why there are so many lesbians now! (LOL!) Even though men are very frustrating, I think I'll hang in there though and try to find a good one. I thought I had a good one and he did a complete 360 on me when I couldn't move and he ended it. Of course it hurts but I came to realize it is his loss and my advice to you would be to not contact him and not chase him and if he is testing you constantly and annoying you this much already maybe he is just a game player and you don't deserve that anyway. I hate that men supposedly hate the drama and then they turn around and cause it! URGH!!! Some advice that Paige had in one of her articles was that you should, "Embrace the fact that you are a phenomenal woman who deserves a man in her life who will recognize all your amazing qualities and will do everything in his power to keep you in his life."
And besides, any man who does not fit this profile is not worth it anyway and you deserve better. If he is annoying you now, chances are, he will annoy you later.
Blessings and Good Luck,
Apple
Sun Jul 12 2009 - 05:30 pm
#7
what the heck is SKYPE???
Mon Jul 13 2009 - 04:54 pm
#8
skype is like msn so it's an application that enables you to communicate with people over the internet - like a digital phone if you will. I have a web cam and so did he (although he gave his to his sister so lately we aren't using web cams just chatting)
you can instant message as well but I use it to talk
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 11:19 pm
#9
thanx for clearing that up for me.... :)
Sat Jul 18 2009 - 07:51 am
#10
Funnyone...you call him a 'prospect' and say you're not official....so perhaps you're expecting too much from him? If you're not in a relationship, then once a week or thereabouts is about the right level of chitchat. If you were in a relationship proper, then it might be reasonable to expect more...but right now, until you have something stronger from him, I don't think it's fair on him to be angry when he's not getting in touch the way a 'boyfriend' should, when he actually isn't a boyfriend?
Or at least that's what I read into it. Perhaps you need to clarify the status of your relationship...are you friends, are you dating, are you more? Try not to expect too much too soon. :-)
Sat Jul 25 2009 - 08:21 pm
#11
no you are right and I have realized that a while ago. we are just friends and it isn't official but there are really obvious hints and signs that he is interested in me. I just get frustrated because I want him to be my boyfriend but since reading DWD and other books, I have stepped back so I am just waiting with him and not taking things seriously unless he decides to
Sat Jul 25 2009 - 05:23 pm
#12
funnyone, I sigh when I read this post because all I wanted was to get married, that was it and I wasn't listening to anything else!! I had tunnel vision. ironically, my last ex taught me that there can be wonderful relationships without expecting anything more than a commitment from the heart. Our break=up was painful, but I came away with this knowledge that has totally freed my mind. I actually don't want to get married now. I only wish for a wonderful partner.
Sun Jul 26 2009 - 08:43 pm
#13
Hello funnyone, Have you met this man in person or has this relationship all been on skype?
Please read my email I wrote under (Long Distance Relationships)...About to enter a LDR any advice? question.
I would be curious to hear your thoughts...or any of the other women out there!!
Thanks, Christi
Mon Jul 27 2009 - 10:35 am
#14
we did meet once last year. we've been on/off in regards to chatting, for reasons I don't want to get into but so far it's going okay but I am wanting him to visit me. fortunately I am focusing on my life so I am not pressuring him to come here or anything. I don't take things too seriously since he has to 'prove' he is good for me so I've taken quite a step back and letting him 'run the show'. he has pestered me to visit him but he knows I am looking for work and so cannot and I told him it was his turn to visit me so I'm sure he is thinking about it.
Sat Sep 05 2009 - 12:06 pm
#15
hello all,
here's an update. I think I last talked to him on july 23 on skype. I didn't hear from him in a while and we became friends again on facebook (I have a few facebook post questions). he sent a request with the message 'pretty please'. we've been on/off again friends on facebook so hopefully we become more adult about being friends there.
I poked him probably mid august and he just sent me a few messages but I haven't heard from him email wise as well since the mid of august.
I recently got a job and announced on my facebook status but he never congratulated me although many of my friends did. I saw he was on skype so maybe he wanted to congratulate me over the phone but I'm not hopping on skype unless he emails me he wants to talk.
not sure if he is pulling back to maybe think if this situation can work out.
I've been busy focusing on my own life and what I want. wondering do I want him, listening to my intuition for guidance.
OFB, I'm new here and I know how it feels when they suddenly stop messaging. What's that all about anyway? But the advice is don't message him. At least thats what we are not supposed to do. In your case it does sound like he is testing you. When he does get in touch, I would not get pissy with him. I think he might be expecting you to. He confused you, so now you confuse him.....lol. If mine ever contacts me again, I'm gonna bite my tongue...lol.
Men...so exasperating!!!
Good Luck!