Am I too much frustrated or he think I don't like him
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 11:23 pm
Hi gals,
I've met a new guy during long weekend trip 3 weeks ago. After coming back from the trip. He's busy guy but he calls me twice a day and ask me out 2 times a week. It seems things going very well but I'm not sure since he's 5years younger than me and good looking (he's just 25). I think he might date other girls but I never asked him.
Nowadays, we keep seeing each other and he sometimes asked me "Why are you interested in me?" or "Do you like me?" I just smiled and said nothing then ask him back the same questions. He just said that he enjoys my company but never say that he likes me.
Last night, we saw the movie at his place. we felt the chemistry between us, we kissed on his sofa but nothing more than that. I a bit resisted him bcoz i'm worry about having sex. I don't want to be only "for now" girl. After movie, he sent me home but he seemed a bit pull away, didn't hold my hand as usual. What's he thinking? Is he thinking I don't like him?
Actually, I'm quite into this guy but I don't want to let him know.
I let him chase me and he knows that some guys re chasing me but they mean nothing to me.
Can I talked to him about other guys? I'm worry that he might think I don't like him and he will get away.
Am I too frustrated by myself or he's considering something.
Today he doesn't call me yet...
Thanks for reading.
Jae
Fri Nov 13 2009 - 04:44 am
#2
Just one thing: you ask 'Can I talk to him about other guys?'
I am not sure I completely understand your question. Why would you want to? To make him realise that you are sought after? To make him jealous?
I am sure there are exceptions, but in general this is one of the most common pet peeve for most people. No, don't talk to him about other guys. Would you like him tot talk to you about other girls?
Best of luck!!!
Fri Nov 13 2009 - 02:25 pm
#3
By talking about other guys are you asking if it is ok to discuss the fact that you are not exclusive and making sure you are on the same page? I wouldn't bring it up. But if he asks be honest with him.
Otherwise, do not discuss other guys you like with him as Wise said
Sun Nov 15 2009 - 10:50 pm
#4
Update my status...
Last weekend, I met this guy, we enjoyed spending time together. We did some shopping, had lunch and dinner as well as he joined my friends seeing movie on Sunday. We seem like being exclusive.
on Sunday evening, I found in FB that he dates other girl. she maybe his girlfriend bcoz he calls her "Babe, Honey, Sweetheart". He wrote in her facebook that he was taking a nap on Sat afternoon, in fact,we were having wonderful time together.
I felt hurt but didn't say anything. He asked me to call him as I got my home last night but I didn't. This morning he calls me twice before I left my home, I didn't answer him.
I'm very confused. I asked him about his status but he said he doesn't date any girls. How can I know what they are, exclusive or just dating. What's the right thing I should do.
Appreciate your all advice.
Mon Nov 16 2009 - 06:38 am
#5
How long have you been seeing this man? Has it been long enough to be looking at an exclusive relationship?
Mon Nov 16 2009 - 09:36 pm
#6
Hi Gals,
I don't expect being exclusive now. But I'm worried he might have girlfriend since I saw him sent sweet messeages to a woman in Facebook. It seems they are exclusive.
If he's not available, I should move on.
The problem is he just says that he doesn't date other girls and I will never know the truth.
Now I think to take time. Maybe 3 months... Lets see what will happen.
Trust me, he likes you! When a man says "I enjoy your company" that means he likes you.
I do pick up that you're over analysing though. I can totally understand that! I'm prone to a bit of that myself. The trouble with this is, it stops us from being present and confident in ourselves when we're with a man we like. And this "vibe" can make a man feel a bit on edge, which in turn tenses us up even more. Sort of a downward spiral! (Sorry this is sounding a tad negative, I'm getting to the positive in a minute!)
Try to relax, give yourself positive, affirming messages, and keep the chatter going on in your head to a minimum. Get out of your head space, and back into your body. Rather than look at every little action he does, (or is not doing) for evidence of what you will do next, just lean back and wait for him to come to you.
I feel also you might need to give this guy a few more signals you like him. He could be pulling back a bit because he notices you're a bit on edge.
As for the concern you might have of not being the "for now" girl, just relax.
This is all going well!