Alright .... I have another question up for debate about men/jealousy and needing their space...
Mon Nov 09 2009 - 02:32 pm
I'm friends with a great guy (at least I thought, lol!) we had a friendship, we have had sex ... and have exchanged our "love" for each other .... we would talk/text all the time .... he always had encouraging words for me, flirted, etc. Then, came the fateful night of a party, a stupid photo/text (me and another guy, having fun and the text from this guy saying how how I am, dumb, right??) ..... and now he wants space from me, claims I was suffocating him. WTF?
If I was, why would he encourage all the emails/texts, etc. ... why would he be texting me that day before the party, asking 20 questions about where, when, with who .... why would he NOT want to hear about any potential dates ..... UGH!!!
Please help me understand this ..... why, if I was "suffocating" him would be continue to feed the fire and keep in contact? Or does this lie with the party photo and text that sent him into a jealous mode .....?
Mon Nov 09 2009 - 02:41 pm
#2
I am .... but I did send him an email today. It was about a surgery I'm having this week. He knows it was coming up, and I guess I felt like I should tell him ..... he was worried for me earlier. I'm not expecting a reply, but I also didn't want him to find out from someone else ..... he's my best friend and I miss him.
Rest assured .... not mushy, or "please take me back" crap was written. Plain and simple.
Tue Nov 10 2009 - 11:23 am
#3
sunny - keep in contact as usual til he gets over his mad on, he's sulking, that doesnt mean you have to follow suit. be who you are in the relationship to him, you dont have the problem, he does.
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 01:37 pm
#4
he certainly has feelings to the point where he couldn't bear to see something of that nature. dont panick the jealousy phase will be over and he will be in touch wih you. the situation just tells u that he personally doesn't need space from u its just for him to get over his own emotions.
I think it is pretty clear: he still has feelings for you and had a pang of jealousy. Be understanding and give him his space.