A prison relationship
Mon Feb 01 2010 - 12:54 am
My honey has been locked up for almost a year now. I just added correctional billing to my phone so now we are able to talk! When he was out he was always available to me and my children and taking up the slack of their dad. I am a working mother (2 jobs), I barely have time to interact with my children, then I sat up at nights trying to write until I fall asleep. My honey is very consistent with the letters and very thoughtful of how many times he calls in a week. I am always in stores looking for reading material for him, sending money,etc. Well I ended up letting a week past me by without writing...He is angry and I feel bad. Should I feel bad? He explained that just because he's in prison doesn't mean that he isn't busy. He expressed how he engages in a variety of activities and still takes time out to write me. I am trying as hard as I can. I want to flip on him but I know he needs me now more than ever. What am I to do????? Any advice?
Mon Feb 01 2010 - 12:18 pm
How long have you all been together? How long will he be locked up? If you have children and trying to make ends meet all the while sending him money, and trying to write him along with being supportive with reading materials, then sweetheart you are doing more than your share without any help! Now him being locked up has nothing to do with you and they are not that busy in jail! Believe you me, I have a brother that goes in and out every other month!!! I am not saying that you shouldn't bother with this guy, b/c obviously you care about him or you wouldn't be doing what you are doing for him, but are you taking money out of your childrens "fund"...like the money for phone calls, and sending him money, could that be used for a better lifestyle for you and your children? If you are already working 2 jobs to make ends meet, baby you need to tell him that you cannot support him financially the way you have been doing and since you are by yourself, if you miss a day or two or a week in between letters, that he really need to understand and not be angry! I believe he is starting to control you even from the jail cell...don't let that happen!!!
Mon Feb 01 2010 - 12:42 pm
I agree with everything the above poster has said. Sounds like you are bending over backwards to help him and he's got the nerve to complain because you didn't have time to write to him that one week. WTF?
Relationships are a two-way street. You're doing all this for HIM, what is he doing for YOU?
Sat Feb 06 2010 - 11:33 pm
Why is he in PRISON?
Sat Feb 20 2010 - 10:02 pm
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