Is a Recent (or Even Not-So-Recent) Breakup or Divorce
Negatively Impacting Your Life? Want to Take Back Control of
Your Happiness Once and For All?
Then You Need the Coaching Program That Will Help You:
Get Through Your Breakup,
Get Over Your Ex,
and Get ON With Your Life…
in Just 30 Days.
Dear Friend,
How many of the following statements do you identify with:
I am dealing with a (recent or even not-so-recent) breakup and it's interfering with my life.
My relationship is on the rocks and I'm pretty sure we're headed for a breakup.
I am dating someone but I worry that issues from old relationships ("baggage") are affecting my ability to create a healthy relationship.
I never fully got over my ex (even though we broke up long ago) and I wonder if that's standing in my way of finding someone new.
I am so hurt from my breakup/divorce that I don't know if I'll ever feel ready to find love again.
I get into one unsatisfying relationship after another. The strange thing is, I seem to keep falling for the same type of men and making the same mistakes over and over again, no matter how hard I try to do things differently.
A breakup/divorce has had a negative impact on my self-esteem.
I want to move on from my ex but I'm afraid of making the same mistakes and don't even know how to begin to put myself "out there" again.
If you can relate to even ONE of those statements, this could be the most important letter you’ve ever read.
That’s because I’m about to show you how to take every ounce of pain, confusion and disappointment you’re feeling now and transform it into an opportunity to create the new, satisfying, love-filled life you’ve always wanted…starting today.
(And you don’t even have to be in the “mood” to make any drastic changes…
I’ll walk you through gradually, step-by-step. Read on to learn how!)
It doesn’t matter how old you are, whether you’re in the midst of a breakup now or still dealing with feelings from a relationship that ended years ago, TODAY marks a major turning point in your life.
Today is the day you decide that your pain will NOT defeat you, but will be
the catalyst that helps you reinvent yourself into an even better YOU than you ever were before.
If you’re open to it, this transformation
is one that will transcend far beyond
the next 30 days, bringing you joy
that will last for the rest of your
life.
- Paige Parker,
Creator of “Breakup Breakthrough”
FACT:
Breakups Are More Destructive
(and Affect Us a Lot Longer)
Than We Even Realize
Breakups are tough. That much no one can deny. But too often we focus on the loss of our relationship – the loss of our man – and fail to recognize the much more damaging potential consequences:
the loss of our self-esteem…
the loss of our life’s direction…
the loss of our identity.
When we try to “shake it off,” “snap out of it,” or just “get over it” without acknowledging the ways our breakup affects us and dealing with it head on, we are setting ourselves up for inevitable pain and heartbreak in the future.
FACT:
Most People Don’t Process Their
Breakup in a Healthy Way
Speaking of just “getting over” your breakup, that’s usually what people – your friends and family, society, maybe even your ex – want you to do. They expect you’ll be sad for a little while and may even lend a shoulder to cry on in the beginning, but eventually their compassion will run out and they’ll encourage you to “suck it up and get back ‘out there’ again.”
So what do most women do?
We stuff our feelings down until they manifest in other ways (headaches, illness, depression, acting out)…
We isolate ourselves because we feel that no one can possibly understand what we’re going through…
We self-medicate with food, alcohol, shopping, or worse…
We force ourselves to go out on dates before we feel ready, which can lead to poor choices, including emotional and physical promiscuity.
The truth is, going through a devastating breakup or divorce is much like grieving a death. It takes time – and some help – to get over a loss like this.
FACT:
If We Don’t Deal With Our Breakup Properly, We Are Doomed to Repeat Our Past Mistakes
The silver lining of your breakup is that it can teach you many valuable lessons about yourself…if you’re open to learning from it.
But if you’re in a hurry to just get over your breakup without processing it in a healthy way, not only will you miss out on those enlightening lessons, but you will most certainly create similar unhealthy circumstances in your future relationships.
(And if it’s been months or even years since a devastating breakup and you’re having trouble finding a fulfilling new relationship, I can guarantee that the “emotional baggage” from that breakup is the culprit.)
You may notice a pattern in your dating life; one where:
You fall for the same “type” of man over and over (e.g. “bad boys,” “emotionally unavailable” men, controlling types, immature guys, etc)
You find yourself feeling anxious, worried, jealous, suspicious, unsatisfied or unhappy more often than you feel fulfilled in relationships
You feel insecure without constant reassurance and validation from your partner
Your relationships end for similar reasons – infidelity, lack of trust, communication breakdown, or you find yourself getting “dumped” out of the blue without seeing it coming
Dealing with your past relationship and its ending will break this pattern and free you to make healthier choices moving forward.
He Saw How Much I Had Changed
and He Wanted Me Back
“Well let me tell you that your advice has completly changed me.
I was in a relationship for almost 5 years...and...well, he broke up with me.
I decided to follow your breakup advice. I realized how I was doing
everything wrong.
Well, he came over to my house and told me he made the worst
mistake and saw how happy I was. I told him to give me some
time.
Now we are back together and the relationship is completly different.
Thank you so much!”
- Helen
FACT:
The Solution to Your Pain – And
the Key to Your Future Happiness – is Breakup Breakthrough
"Breakup Breakthrough" is an inspirational 30-day personal coaching program to help you:
1.
Recoverfrom the pain of a breakup
2.
Rediscover your needs and your self-esteem
3.
Reinvent your life
Think of it like a virtual breakup coach: an understanding new friend (that’s me) who will walk you through your breakup step-by-step, day-by-day, helping you process your emotions, fears, challenges, and eventually your hopes and dreams for your future; dreams that, together, we can make a reality.
I say “virtual” breakup coach because I provide your daily coaching sessions by audio (in the form of CDs that you can play at home or in your car, or as MP3s that you can download to your iPod or computer), along with a journal where you can record your thoughts, feelings and progress, as well as daily creative “Just for Me” activities to help you pamper and renew yourself.
You’ll get all the benefits of an in-person coach while doing your program in the comfort and privacy of your own home, on your own schedule (without paying thethousands of dollars that a life coach charges!).
This program is for you no matter what the circumstances of your breakup.
It works if you’re
in the midst of a fresh breakup (whether you ended the relationship or were dumped without warning)
dealing with a recent (or not-so-recent) breakup
seriously considering ending your relationship
wondering whether your guy is about to break up with you
facing divorce after years of marriage
feeling pain from the ending of a brief but intense romance
in a new relationship but with a nagging feeling of “unfinished emotional business” from a past breakup (and a desire get rid of the baggage that’s keeping you from opening up to your new guy)
How to Quickly Move From
Breakup
to Breakthrough
The Breakup Breakthrough program is divided into three phases, with 10 days in each phase.
It is a journey designed to meet you right where you are (emotionally, physically and spiritually); a personal coaching program that will take you by the hand and help you work through the often complex and overwhelming thoughts and feelings you are going through as a result of your breakup, in the order that you are experiencing them.
Each day of your Breakup Breakthrough builds upon the previous day’s message. As you follow the program, you will begin to notice a drastic improvement in the way you feel:
Heartache will heal.
You’ll let go of resentments.
Insecurities will fade away and be replaced with self-esteem.
The fears and doubts about your future (especially your prospects for real and lasting love) will vanish as you become filled with excitement about the endless possibilities for a life that is healthier and more fulfilled than ever before...
...And all in just 30 days!
“Breakup Breakthrough” is
Completely Different from All Those Exhausting Self-Help Books
That You Just Don’t Have the
Energy to Read Right Now.
First of all, it’s not a book. When you’re going through a breakup, the last thing you feel like doing is a lot of reading. I get it. That’s why I designed “Breakup Breakthrough” as a 3-part coaching system.
The reason why I’m so confident you’ll get so much out of it is because, before I was married, I went through some pretty hellish breakups of my own, and I know how overwhelming and exhausting they can be.
I know what it feels like to have your head spin, your heart LITERALLY ache in your chest, and to walk around like you’re wearing your emotions on the outside of your skin.
I’ve stood in the self-help section of Barnes and Noble, helplessly searching the racks for a book that would speak to my situation, one that promises to ease my pain. And then I’ve walked out of the store thinking: I’m so sad I can barely get myself dressed in the morning. How am I going to make it through a 300 page book by some know-it-all, finger-wagging “doctor” and expect it’s going to make me feel better?
So I designed the kind of program that I would have wanted when I was suffering through a breakup.
I’ve boiled the process down to short, daily coaching sessions that you can listen to during your morning walk, in the car on your way home from work, or whenever you have a quiet moment to yourself.
Your Breakup Breakthrough won’t require you to change your life; just to make a few moments for yourself each day… moments that I’m certain you’ll grow to cherish as a special time to nurture your soul and heal your heart.
The unique and valuable thing about my program is that I coach you through every step of the process of overcoming your breakup.
I have no doubt that your best girlfriends love you and have your best interests at heart. They will be there for you in the beginning. But, they are human. Eventually, they WILL grow tired of hearing the same story over and over.
They won’t want to examine every angle of what happened – what your ex did, what he said, who he may or may not be dating now. They will try to get you to “snap out of it,” to go out on the town and meet a new guy to get your mind off of things. They’ll attempt to set you up with their co-worker before you feel ready.
Breakup Breakthrough will allow you a different, healthy outlet to work through your feelings.
Like a virtual best friend who never grows tired of being there for you, I’ll hold your hand throughout the process. When you’re feeling confused, you can tune into a coaching session that meets you right where you are. When you need to go over what happened, you can write in your Transformation Journal to get it all out. And when you need some pampering or a good laugh, I provide creative suggestions to help you indulge.
With my program, you won’t need to lean on your friends to meet your emotional needs nearly as much.
Instead, you can meet them for a pedicure and when they ask how you’re doing, you can say, “You know what? I have bad days and good days, but I’m working through it and I’ll be fine. Thanks for asking. Now what color should I paint my toes?”
Is Breakup Breakthrough REALLY
Going to Work for You? (And is it REALLY Possible to Get Over
Someone in Just 30 Days?)
The short answers are: YES and YES, if you’re ready.
Let me explain…
No matter what the circumstances, breakups are never easy. (I’ve certainly been through my share, so I understand exactly where you are!) Right now you are likely going through lots of different – sometimes conflicting – emotions: despair, anger, guilt, disbelief, relief, loneliness, sadness, shame, embarrassment, rage, hopefulness and grief, just to name a few.
Your “Breakup Breakthrough” program will address all of these emotions and more, and we’ll work through them together through our daily audio coaching sessions, affirmation work, journaling, personal growth exercises, and plenty of pampering along the way.
I’m so confident that it will work for you that I offer a 60 day money-back guarantee (more on that a bit later). As I say in “Breakup Breakthrough”:
I know it may seem impossible to you now during this difficult time, but if you fully commit to taking care of yourself by following this program, I guarantee you will experience a drastic improvement in the way you feel…not only about yourself, but about your past relationship and your future prospects for lasting love.
In fact, the goal of this program is not to simply get you back to how you felt before your breakup, but to help you experience a complete breakthrough – a personal reinvention – that will transform you into a woman who’s even stronger, healthier, and more fulfilled than ever before.
It doesn’t matter how old you are, whether you’re in the midst of a breakup now or still dealing with feelings from a relationship that ended years ago, TODAY marks a major turning point in your life.
Today is the day you decide that your pain will NOT
defeat you, but will be the catalyst that helps you reinvent yourself into an even better YOU than you ever were before.
If you’re open to it, this transformation is one that will transcend far beyond the next 30 days, bringing you joy that will last for the rest of your life.
So, is it really possible to get over a breakup in just 30 days?
Well, each person is unique and every breakup is different, so I don’t advocate putting your grieving process on a strict schedule. In fact, I encourage you to take the time you need to truly honor your feelings, because rushing or ignoring them will only sabotage your recovery.
However, there are two ways you can handle this breakup:
1.
You can face it alone, and spend the next few weeks, months or even years giving in to unhealthy or unproductive behaviors out of confusion and fear
- OR -
2.
You can let ME coach you through it…day by day, step by step, providing a constructive course of action that will guide you through your emotions and help you process your experiences.
Keep in mind that I’ve designed 30 days of guidance for you, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that you HAVE to complete the program in one month.
I’m here to help you, but ultimately this is a self-guided plan. You can take breaks if you need to, you can stay on the same day for as long as you need, or go back to repeat a particular day if you’re feeling yourself back-sliding.
But, ultimately, if you choose to follow this Breakup Breakthrough program, you will feel MUCH better in a month than if you had decided to go it alone… and THAT’s a promise.
About Your New Coach
My name is Paige Parker, and I’m the author of the bestselling guide to relationships, “Dating Without Drama” – the simple, straightforward and sane guide to dating in the modern world.
Hundreds of thousands of women around the world read my weekly “Dating Dish” newsletters and use my eBook as their personal handbook for drama-free dating.
I’ve received thousands of letters from women all over the globe who credit my book with helping them get out of dead-end dating situations, repair damaged (or build from scratch) self esteem, find men who are truly worthy of them, build healthy relationships… even get engaged and become happily married after years of worrying they’d never find “the one!” (To read some of these success stories, click here to jump to the bottom of this page).
Recently, I did a survey to see what major concerns my “Dating Without Drama” readers were having.
I had a hunch that breakups were an issue… but I was shocked to learn that over 60% of the women asked were either going through a breakup or getting over a recent breakup. (The other 40%, I suspect, have some “unfinished emotional business” from a past relationship that may be causing drama in their current love life, whether they’ve found a new partner or not.)
I knew instantly what I had to do. I began creating “Breakup Breakthrough” (a true labor of love and a natural extension of my “Dating Without Drama” mission) and now it is finally ready to share with you.
I Now Have the Confidence to Get What I Need from a Relationship
“Thanks for helping me learn about myself and to settle for nothing less than I deserve.
I am a divorced mother with 2 young children.
I have been dating a man who is not ready for me and I keep making excuses for him.
I have overlooked so many things and now I am ready to forge ahead and get what I want out of a relationship.”
Here’s Just a TASTE of What You’ll
Discover in “Breakup Breakthrough”
The healthiest way to grieve the loss of your relationship (Day 1)
Wether or not you should contact or see your ex – and why (Day 3)
Why you deserve to pamper yourself (and dozens of ideas to help you do it)
The three toxic emotions that are holding you back from moving on… and how to overcome them (Day 11)
How breaking out of your routine (aka RUT) can infuse your life with excitement and positive energy, PLUS makes you irresistible to new men (when you’re ready to date again, that is!) (Day 23)
How to eliminate the temptation to call your ex (Day 3)
Simple ways to rebuild your self-esteem (Day 15)
Why anger can be a gift when you’re going through a breakup (Day 5)
Simple and fun tips to give yourself a gorgeous makeover on ANY budget (even on the cheap/free!) (Day 24)
The absolutely foolproof secret to forgetting about your troubles and feeling fantastic about yourself (Day 16)
How to actually have FUN getting rid of your ex’s stuff! (Day 4)
Where to get support when your friends and/or family are unavailable or unwilling to help (Day 7)
How to know when you’re ready to try dating again (and practical ways to help you get “out there” when you are!) (Day 25, Day 27, Day 28)
How to push past denial to reveal the truth about your ex (Day 2)
How to identify your support system and lean on them in an appropriate way (Day 7)
Forgiveness: Why it’s important and how it can help you move on (Day 17)
Encouragement to look forward to your bright future (Day 19, Day 25)
How to create your blueprint for personal reinvention (Day 21)
Dozens of simple ways to get a fresh perspective on your life
How to rediscover the YOU you may have lost in your relationship (Day 18)
The reason why crying is healthy for you…how to get your feelings out and move on (Day 1)
How to seize this moment as an opportunity to reinvent yourself and live the life you’ve always wanted
Healthy ways to deal with feelings of sadness (Day 14)
How to make healthy choices during your breakup…and in future relationships (Day 6)
Why your breakup may be for the best (Day 9)
A step-by-step guide to rediscovering your inner flirt (Day 27)
How to deal with your anger in a healthy and productive way (Day 5)
Why an attitude of gratitude will bring love into your life (Day 29)
How to confront your fears and replace them with faith (Day 8)
The secret to creating healthier future relationships (hint: it involves looking at your role in the breakup) (Day 12)
How to appreciate your body’s beauty (plus my trick for burning calories that feels nothing at all like exercise but will have you feeling alive and fabulous!) (Day 22)
How to use “Subconscious Motivators” to get a man to ask you out again (Day 27)
And much, much more…
Here’s What You’ll Get:
Three step-by-step, day-by-day audio coaching session CDs to encourage, challenge, enlighten, and inspire you as you work through your breakup
A Transformation Journal filled with thought-provoking, enlightening ways to help you process your thoughts and feelings
30 creative “Just for Me” activities to help you pamper and renew yourself
A convenient 3-ring binder to allow you to keep all of your materials organized and easily accessible, as well as remove and add extra journal pages along your “Breakup Breakthrough” journey
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1.
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2.
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MP3 files of the audio coaching sessions for
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A digital version of the Breakup Breakthrough Workbook
Extra workbook pages for you to print and insert
into your transformation journal for when you
need more space to write
3.
Free CD from my “YOU ASK, MEN ANSWER” Series on “Breakups & Exes” ($22.95 - FREE for a limited time!)
Don’t just guess what men are thinking, know for sure!
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I ask a panel of guys all the questions you’ve been agonizing over and get the honest and straightforward answers you need!
4.
Daily Inspirational Messages ($12.95 - FREE for a limited time!)
30 days of heart-healing affirmations printed on cards
that you can place in your handbag, your wallet, your
car, on your mirror, or your computer to inspire and encourage you along your Breakup Breakthrough
journey.
My Breakup Breakthrough “Find Your Smile” Guarantee
Because I’m so confident that my groundbreaking new “Breakup Breakthrough” coaching program will help you get through your breakup, get over your ex, and get ON with your life, I want you to try it for 60 days risk-free!
I’m certain it will not only help you get over your breakup, but help you experience a complete breakthrough that will transform you into a woman who’s even stronger, healthier, and more fulfilled than ever before.
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If, after you’ve completed the program (within 60 days), you decide that you don’t feel better than when you began it, simply contact me at help@datewithoutdrama.com for a full refund.
If “Breakup Breakthrough” doesn’t help you Find Your Smile again, you get your money back. It’s that simple!
Consider This…
How Much is a Healed Heart and a Fresh Start
Worth to You?
There are few experiences in life as painful as a breakup.
You’ve been through breakups before and (God forbid) you may go through more before your dating days are done.
You know as well as I do the unproductive – and sometimes downright destructive – behavior we, as women, can resort to when we feel hurt, abandoned, confused and emotionally vulnerable:
Crying uncontrollably with no real outlet to process
our emotions
Allowing the pain from our breakup to interfere with work, school, and relationships with friends and family
Contacting and/or seeing our ex when it’s not healthy for us to do so
Venting to or leaning on our girlfriends so much that we become emotionally draining and annoying to them without even realizing it
Sabotaging potentially healthy new relationships because we haven’t dealt with the issues that haunt us from our past relationship/breakup
Wasting money on “quick fixes” like vacations, expensive shoes or drowning our sorrows in a bottle of wine that, once over, leave us feeling more depressed and empty (not to mention an empty wallet)
Now what would it be worth to you to get over your ex in a healthy (yet fast) way that allows you to:
Process your emotions…
Learn the lessons from the relationship…
Rid yourself of the pain you’re feeling (while still allowing you to hold onto memories in an appropriate way)…
and transform yourself into the confident, self-assured woman you’ve always wanted to be…
… which will prepare you to find a real, healthy, lasting relationship?
Every penny of your life savings?
Well, guess what?
“Breakup Breakthrough” will transform your life, and all for a lot less than you’d spend on just one of those (ineffective) “quick fix” splurges we just talked about.
In fact, you'll get:
1.
Three inspirational audio coaching session CDs
2.
A Transformation Journal
3.
30 “Just for Me” Activities
4.
A convenient 3-ring binder
5.
24 hour support phone line with encouraging
messages from Paige
6.
Bonus CD of extra “Breakup Breakthrough” content (blank workbook pages and MP3 files of your coaching sessions)
7.
Bonus CD from my “YOU ASK, MEN ANSWER” (Interviews with Real Men) Series on the topic of “Breakups & Exes”
8.
Daily Inspirational Messages on cards that you can take with you
+
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Talk about being kicked while you’re down!!! About the only thing worse than suffering through a breakup is suffering through a breakup during these tough financial times.
And the timing MIGHT not be just a coincidence… In fact, a recent study reported a correlation between our tough economic times and failing relationships. Now, more than ever, breakups and divorces are on the rise.
That’s why I’m offering special discounted pricing on Breakup Breakthrough for a limited time.
Be sure to take advantage of my introductory “Recession Discount” offer – the price will go up soon and you don’t want to miss out on this deal!
Think of it this way... you could try to get
over
your breakup by:
Hiring a life coach ($2,000.00 a month, not including materials)
Seeing a therapist ($180.00 and up for one session)
Getting a massage ($125.00 an hour… good for momentary relaxation but doesn’t get at the root cause of your tension)
Splurging on luxurious shoes ($685 for one pair of Jimmy Choo leather peep-toe pumps – awfully pretty and a momentary thrill when you buy them, but aren’t going to do you any good sitting in your closet while you’re stuck at home moping over your breakup)
A getaway trip to London, Italy, Paris, Hawaii, [insert your dream destination here] ($5,000+ including hotel, airfare and meals… sounds good when you’re booking it – the only trouble is, your heartache travels with you, and worse – you have to come back to reality after the week is over!)
A good old fashioned (drown-your-sorrows-in-a) martini: $12 each (aha…that’s pretty cheap! But wait… you’re gonna need about three of those to feel better, and eventually your buzz is going to wear off, and now you’re left with all of your same problems PLUS a nasty hangover. On second thought, not such a good idea, huh?)
– OR –
You could spend just $149.95 on “Breakup Breakthrough,” the coaching system guaranteed to help you heal your hurting heart for good and transform you into the self-confident, irresistible woman you’ve always wanted to be.
Even in the throes of a breakup, when nothing in life seems to make sense, THIS is a no-brainer.
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If after you’ve tried the program (within 60 days), you decide that “Breakup Breakthrough” didn’t help you feel better about your breakup and find your smile again, just email me at help@datewithoutdrama.com for a full refund.
But if you commit to your "Breakup Breakthrough” journey and discover that it has the answers you have been looking for all along, you don't need to do anything more.
How’s that for easy?
So click on the button below to order “Breakup Breakthrough” – Your Personal Coaching Program to Help You Get Through the Pain, Get Over Your Ex, and Get on With Your Life…In Just 30 Days.
I’m looking forward to taking this journey with you!
Your friend, Paige Parker
Founder, Dating Without Drama
P.S. Let's keep the conversation going! Don't ever hesitate to email me at paige@datewithoutdrama.com - I'd love to hear from you.
Read What Real Women Just Like You Say
About “Breakup Breakthrough”
“Dear Paige,
In January I was completely broken hearted having spent the prior two years in a miserable relationship. It was so difficult to function during the worst of the heartache. But I found comfort in your advice.
I'm happy to say that I've met a wonderful new man. We went out on several dates, and each time it became clear to me that he was a strong, loving, and worthy man. We see each other on a regular basis now, and believe it is so much different than my previously failed relationships!!!
Your advice helped me identify the areas where I needed to change,and the way in which I choose and treat a potential partner.”
- Cheryl, Urbana, IL
“Hi there Paige,
Your advice is incredibly useful. There are spot on pointers which
should help every single girl out there.
I realised that the relationship I was in was unstable and I just
knew I had to get out. Since the split, the changes have been
absolutely unbelievable. I have been really focusing, my health
has improved dramatically, I am more content, not depressed like
I was before.
I have thrown myself back into my hobbies, my reading, writing my
book, dancing, friends and my work is improving as well,
these were all the things I was trying to gain when we were
together, but I couldn't...so now it's all positive.
Thanks for your kind words - they helped me get along in these last
few months”
- Jo, United Kingdom
“Dear Paige,
I was in an unhappy marriage for ten years and after four years of terrible dating experiences, things are finally looking up, thanks to your advice.
I am forty years old and just learning how to date correctly. I have had a history of scaring off the men that I really like by being too forward and having the men that I do not like becoming my own personal stalkers for years. I thought that something was terribly wrong with me.
Since discovering your advice I have changed how I behave around men and MY DATING LIFE HAS DRAMATICALLY IMPROVED!
Most presently I broke off a one year 'friends with benefits' relationship because I cared for him and I knew the relationship was not going anywhere.
That very same day that I truly made a mental emotional break from that relationship I began dating a wonderful man. I am still unsure if there is really any chemistry there or not. He is certainly handsome and is a man of true character. He treats me with the utmost respect. This is a wonderful change from my previous dating experiences.
I am learning to value myself and to expect that I be treated respectfully. Who knows where this new relationship will lead,
but I do know that thanks to my new found confidence, I will not
settle for anything less than ALL that my heart desires out of
a relationship. Thank you so much!”
- Tallulah, Bend, OR
“Dear Paige,
Thank you for your insight, information and tools for helping me
through this adventure. It creates confidence.
I was in a relationship for four years that ended six months ago.
Before that, I was married for thirty years and then replaced by a
woman two years older than my daughter (Yikes and Yuck!).
Dating? Unfamiliar territory for me. Talk about "out of the loop!"
Any "normal" man would have run for the hills! I didn't know about
dating because I haven't ever really dated in my 51 years...
Yesterday, I noticed all of these wonderful men everywhere I went.
I tried your "1/3/1 second glance" technique with a man going in
the opposite direction and he beamed at me and tripped!
I went into a store and a man walked towards me with his arms open
and exclaimed how beautiful I was!
What the heck is going on?
I am very excited about the new path you showed me, Paige!
Thank you so very much!”
- Linda
“Hey Paige,
I found your advice last September, desperate to break my vicious
cycle of the needy woman always attracting self centered,commitment phobes.
Having finally walked out of a very on/off, soul destroying and destructive 15 year relationship the previous April, I knew the last thing I wanted or needed was to go back there again.
So I followed your advice and very soon noticed a change in the way I was treated by and how I treated my prospective dates. It was great, I HAD MORE PHONE NUMBERS AND INTEREST THAN I KNEW WHAT TO DO WITH and I threw myself into being wined, dined, complimented and treated like a lady by the opposite sex (which was something I had definitely missed out on over 15 years). It was fabulous.
Then I got a call out of the blue from an old friend inviting me for dinner. I accepted, I always knew him to be the
perfect gentleman and with our friendship having spanned some 22 years, I knew this guy was never gonna hit on me. He was just going through a divorce.
We both shared our tales of woe re: the perils of relationships and living life in the single lane again and while nothing physical happened, our friendship moved up a notch.
In the past, I had never looked at him as boyfriend material, to be honest I always thought he was a bit to good looking and confident for me and that I was out of his league.
So, I played it cool, I let him do all the calling and chasing, texting and travelling. I never accepted dates on the same night which let him know that I had a full and eventful life.
All I can say is that he was like a moth to the flame. I never put any demands on him, I was just aloof enough for him to realise that he may have competition and that I was no easy catch. Eventually, I cooked dinner for him for his birthday, when he told me that he had put my name in his phone as "My Girl."
That was February and today we are almost inseparable. He treats me like a Queen, calls me Princess everyday, sends me the most amazing beautiful romantic txt messages, leaves post-it notes all over the flat telling me how much he loves me, cooks me dinner and makes me breakfast, but most importantly, we have become what some might call Soul Mates. I practice your advice everyday.
We've been living together since May. We never argue, even petty squabbles, we never take each other for granted, we talk like sensible adults if we don't like something, but in general we are
happy just to be in each other's company.
My friends and family can't believe the difference in my whole persona, they can't believe how happy and healthy and confident I look. They say that he has mellowed me, but I put it down to your
good advice and making the changes within myself first.
I never thought I would be so happy, I certainly never thought it was possible to have love on my terms, but I've managed to land myself a wonderful man who treats me and our relationship like it something worth preserving instead of running away from - how refreshing! So thank you so much.”
I just wanted to thank you, I was dating a guy for almost a year and I
fell too hard too fast. He did not want a girlfriend but wanted me to act like one. Get all the benefits without the title.
Sometimes I felt so insecure about myself, but thanks to your advice I
realized that I needed someone that was willing to commit to me so I
let go of him even though it was really hard (I am still in pain).
I want something more serious, not just a friends with benefits
relationship.
Thank you again and now I am working on reconstructing my life and being happy with myself. (I already took the first step and went on a date with
myself and it was fantastic!)”
- Jenn
“Dear Paige,
Thank you for all of your advice. I have put it into practice for awhile
now. I finally ended a relationship that was full of drama. I saw in your
advice all the reasons I should have run for the hills when this one came
along. It really empowered me to take care of myself and see how worthy
and amazing I really am.
I've been healing and find I'm not yet ready to be in a relationship but
I have hope that one day there will be an amazing man who will treat me
great.
With this new attitude I find I'm really enjoying my life and
connecting with my family who mean the world to me. I have noticed that
the men I have dated really fall for me and there are more who would love
to go out with me. I have days when I feel down and forget my worth and
those are the days when I'm not as popular.
Thank you for helping me to heal and become who I am meant to be.”
- Krista
“Dear Paige,
I purchased your books on the net and started receiving and avidly reading your advice when my relationship ended a couple of months ago. Everything
you had to say rang true to me and I could see all the mistakes I made in
the way I had I conducted my relationship.
While I knew I had learned a huge
amount and that I would never make the same relationship mistakes again, I
was truly broken hearted because I believed what my ex and I had was
genuinely true love and that we could overcome anything together.
From a distance he watched me change and grow and become strong (and start
dating other guys!) We began communicating again a few weeks back and not
only have I been applying everything I learned from you I have been openly
sharing what you say, to him.
We are now back together, madly in love and so much more aware of all the relationship mistakes we have made before.Thank you. My relationship is better now than it ever could have been if I hadn't found you when it ended.
If it wasn't for you and the things you share, I would never have understood
how to contribute to a lasting and loving relationship the way I do now...”
- Jennifer
“Hi Paige,
I have been in a relationship with someone for exactly 3 years now. It is all physical, he has never dated me, not once. I know in all this time that I have been a fool but fell for empty words like "I love you."
He shuts me out like I do not exist, never calls, only calls when he is on his way to see me. Many times I questioned him using me and he just never answers and manipulates me with "I love you."
I am divorced for eight years, I had been in an abusive marriage for six years. I get angry with myself for having allowed this for so long.
I have gained my self confidence and questioned why this time around I allowed this weakness. I was strong to get out of an abusive relationship. I know I am beautiful and very attractive.
I knew your book would set me free from all this loneliness and I am great. I do not call him and it's exactly 2 weeks since I received your book.
I am beginning to feel so good about myself. When men flirt, I smile and if I get a date, I will go. I just do not want to be that desperate girl anymore and grab anything that comes along the way.
It feels good to be in control. With all his charm and good looks I know he is not worth it and I am special and I deserve better.
Just want to say Thank You for your book.... my dating life is going to get
better and I feel like I have taken my power back and I'm not going to allow myself to be used by anyone.
Just saying this feels great. I have a
13 year old daughter and as she is growing I would like to pass this wisdom
through to her someday.”
It doesn’t matter how old you are, whether you’re in the midst of a breakup now or still dealing with feelings from a relationship that ended years ago, TODAY marks a major turning point in your life. 
