I think as I post this, it's technically no longer Valentine's Day.  But the message is still relevant, I think...

If you're like me, you're single today.

It's OK.

Really, I know there's the "Haves" who are talking about their dinner plans or weekend plans or crap they're buying for their "sweetie" or "honey muffin" or "boondoggle."  And it can suck a little bit if you're single.Read more

First off, let me just thank those of you who read this and all the other blogs and comment!  I don't always respond in a timely fashion, but your feedback and comments are what keep these blogs going!  So thanks!  I always welcome complimentary or contrary opinions - it helps bridge those communication gaps!

Anyway, onto what was on my mind today.

I contribute to this website, “Dating Without Drama”, to provide a male’s perspective on dating.  Thankfully, from what I gather in the comments and even the contest that got me employed here, I'm on the young side of the readership at 31.  I say “thankfully” because serious dating changes once you get past 25 years old or so.  With rare exceptions, finding a partner - not just a hook-up - is no longer like it was in college.Read more

DATE IN REVIEW 2010, #1:  Natasha

Natasha isn’t her real name, so her privacy will remain intact.  Who knows, she might even be a member of this site, see this story, and tell her side of the tale.

But for now, I have the blog here, but as you'll see, I'll take the full blame on this one.Read more

I don’t think I’ve talked about this before, but this topic came up as a discussion with a very talented friend of mine this past weekend.  So I felt it was time I brought it up here.

I’m talking about money.  And status.  Do we care?Read more

I never watched "Sex and The City" regularly when it was on HBO, but I did catch a few episodes, as I had heard the writing was top-notch!  I also had a very macho guy friend rent the entire first season when Blockbuster was still making money, so I caught a few more at his place after Sunday football.  And while I remember pieces here and there, one line resonated then and resonates today.

I don't remember which guy she was talking about, but Carrie Bradshaw's "Article of the Week" had to do with exes.  Her summary line, or her question to her readers, was "Where does the love go?" after two people break up.  I used to answer Carrie's question with, "When 2 people break up, the love is still there, but now exists in another form."

So, dear readers, can exes be friends?Read more

So, as everyone is thinking about 2009, as well as looking forward to 2010, I thought I’d take a little personal inventory on what I’ve learned from 2009 about dating.  Here are my own thoughts about dating and women, in no particular order.Read more

All right, enough about Tiger Woods.

Let’s talk cougars!

As I look back on 2009, this has definitely been the year of the ‘cougar.’  Older women pursuing younger guys.  Sometimes there’s an implication that they might be married, but for those somehow unfamiliar with the term at this point, it’s an older woman pursuing a much younger man (cougar bait, as it were).

We had a TV show starring Courtney Cox about it.  Conventions sprung up around the country (there was one in LA in early November).  I read an article in The New Yorker about it.  There are even ‘cougar’ experts starting to make a living off this.

What does it all mean and what do I think about it?Read more

Sorry for the lack of posts these past few weeks - I was visiting family in Chicago recently!  And while I was there, the local news station one night had a segment where they asked people "Who was the most annoying person of 2009."  Jon and Kate got some votes, but there was another popular answer:

Tiger Woods.  Have you heard what's up with him?

OK, you might be tempted to click away, purely based on the media over-saturation, but please bear with me, as I think I have some fresh things to say about it.Read more

Last Saturday, my younger brother and I got into a discussion.  I’ve been single for awhile, so he asked me how my time on the internet dating sites were going.  As typical with my online experiences, all the women I’ve met have been nice, but nothing has really gone beyond the coffee / first date stage.  He then asked, “Are you including single moms in your search?”

I told him plainly, “No.”

He then got real angry with me, saying that I was missing out on some potentially great women!

I then proceeded to tell him my reasoning why I haven’t been including them in my searches.Read more

I thought of this idea for a post today because I made myself feel guilty about something.  In a previous post, I talked about online dating site etiquette.  Do you return or not return emails?

Recently I had met a woman in-person who I had been talking to on a dating website.  But, when I met her, I found I wasn't attracted to her.  So, I sent her an email later that week to tell her while I did have a great time, I didn’t think we were a match.  I was pleasantly surprised to get a polite response from her.  So maybe this is a good policy, eh?

Another woman emailed me over a week ago, and I did what I think most guys (and probably most girls do, too), and I looked at her pictures first.

I didn’t like what I saw, so I left the email unread. Read more