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No More Ultimatums Please

Ok ladies let's go over some simple dating statistics.

  • There are 86 single men for every 100 single women
  • 44% of the american population over 100 million people are single
  • 40% of the single population 40+ million people utilize online dating sites
  • profiles with photos get twice as many responses as profiles with out photos

source of information:  http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Will_Irvin

If we were hanging out and talkng, this is where you would definitely ask "so Bryan what's your point?" Well it's simple mathmatics ladies, there are more available women than there are men. The internet daing phenom is here to stay and it's going to continue to grow. Most of all men tend to be data driven, this is the simple reason they can spew out their favorite athletes career stats. More importantly how does this impact you as a woman?

Well let's be honest, I'll admit reluctantly that men are slower than women yet we're not stupid. Ok we tend to do stupid things, yet that's an all together different conversation. Once we (men) realize that we're a commodity, we will milk it for what it's worth. Guess what? We do know we're a commodity. So simply by rule of supply and demand men will require better treatment and attention than what most women are accustomed to giving in the intial stages of dating. Of course some women are wondering how they can even get a man to reply to their online profile. It seems that curretnly there are many available women who are not even receiving responses to their online profiles. I've even heard women mention that they have actually put out flirts or the intial communication, only to never get a response from men.

So what's a girl to do w/such increasingly difficult odds while on the dating scene? Well one of the first challenges is to understand what you are faced with. Some of the information I've provided should help you, coupled with the countless other outlets that have given you similar information. So while the days of a woman thinking that a man should always be in pursuit are probably a thing of the past. Fear not ladies let's look at what you can honestly do to get noticed and draw some interest online.

Try several of the following:

  • Try to have more than 1 photo on your profile. It's always helpful to give more than 1 picture, preferably in different setting (casual, dressed to impress)
  • Profiles should build interest not scare a man off. Some women tend to give too much information. Usually the information has so much of what the woman doesn't want in a relationship a man just gets scared away.
  • Don't be the girl that has a profile photo that was taken in a restroom. That's just soooooooo nasty in sooooooo many ways.
  • The single biggest profile error made by women is having an ultimatum in your profile. Men don't do well with ultimatums so if they see that in a profile it's usually the red flag that sends them running in another direction.

So while this online dating thing is going to become increasingly more difficult in the future, all is not lost ladies. Just remember sometimes less is more, give the man enough information to be interested. Try not to sound too preachy, we have our own mothers that handle that job. Be happy that there are fewer men to choose from, that will reduce the likelihood of meeting 50 jerks to about 48. Good luck and good times in your search!

User Comments (3)

Good post Brian. Maybe you could start a new business. Proofreading profiles :) I'd pay for that service.

you have some great points

Brian, these are incorrect statistics and have a lot to do with age brackets. There are many age brackets where there are more men than women, and indeed that is part of why we are seeing the older woman, younger man thing. You may want to do more research. However, being attractive works under any scenario.